Why are men okay dating bisexual women,but most straight women are not okay with dating a bisexual man?
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BohemianBabe · M
It's actually a very long story. Here's the short version.
In ancient times, there was no sexual orientation. Sex was something a man did, and it was part of how men would dominate women and other weaker men. So while there was no homophobia, there was bigotry against men who bottomed because they were seen as weak and feminine. Meanwhile, people didn't even believe two women having sex actually was real sex, because for it to be sex a man had to be dominating someone with his schwanz.
As western society transitioned from Pagan to Christian, homosexuality became seen as wrong, but this mindset of ancient times didn't really go away. People still linked certain positions within sex as being wrong for a man because it made him feminine. The result was that society saw homosexuality as bad, but really just for men. Even in totalitarian countries where gay people were killed, it was mostly just gay men that were targeted. This is also why if a woman pegs a man, it's seen as gay, even though there's no same-gender sex going on.
And that brings us to where we are now. Even a lot of progressive people who support gay rights still see something wrong with men being gay. That's why women are less likely to date bi men.
In ancient times, there was no sexual orientation. Sex was something a man did, and it was part of how men would dominate women and other weaker men. So while there was no homophobia, there was bigotry against men who bottomed because they were seen as weak and feminine. Meanwhile, people didn't even believe two women having sex actually was real sex, because for it to be sex a man had to be dominating someone with his schwanz.
As western society transitioned from Pagan to Christian, homosexuality became seen as wrong, but this mindset of ancient times didn't really go away. People still linked certain positions within sex as being wrong for a man because it made him feminine. The result was that society saw homosexuality as bad, but really just for men. Even in totalitarian countries where gay people were killed, it was mostly just gay men that were targeted. This is also why if a woman pegs a man, it's seen as gay, even though there's no same-gender sex going on.
And that brings us to where we are now. Even a lot of progressive people who support gay rights still see something wrong with men being gay. That's why women are less likely to date bi men.
WowwGirl · 36-40, F
@BohemianBabe thank you very informative
HumanEarth · F
@BohemianBabe That makes sense
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BohemianBabe · M
@Torsten How was it wrong? Who was being hurt?
Torsten · 36-40, M
@BohemianBabe because it was not accepted. Thats the problem with people sucb as yourself, you all act like long ago in history that people matched your modern politics. That is not the case in the slightest
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BohemianBabe · M
@Torsten Are you actually insane? I'm saying people were wrong for thinking there was something wrong with a man bottoming for another man.
Torsten · 36-40, M
@BohemianBabe "As western society transitioned from Pagan to Christian, homosexuality became seen as wrong"... thats what you said. You made out like it was accepted in pagan times and only christianity changed that. It was never accepted before christianity either.
BohemianBabe · M
@Torsten It was absolutely accepted in Pagan Europe. If you have evidence of the contrary, feel free to present it.
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