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How can my "ugly" friend improve his appearance to have better success with women?

Before you say anything, yes, I did have clear and explicit permission from him to use this photo, and it was him in fact that told me to use his picture online to see what advice I could get for him.

But he's really insecure about being "ugly." And honeslty, despite beauty being in the eye of the beholder and everything, I unfortunately don't disagree. He's bald with a big red nose, and you may think he looks old but believe it or not he's only 34 years old. He just has a history of taking zero care of his body since childhood (including neglectful parents) and doing tons of drugs, eating tons of junk food, terrible hygiene, and never exercising.

The worst part though for me is his personality. He practically does nothing productive with his time. He claims to be "temporarily unemployed" but he's been unemployed for over 5 years now. He also keeps posting his selfies all over 4chan, and people on there have been making fun of him for over a decade and yet he keeps on posting. And he's terrible at talking to girls as well. He literally starts all conversations with women with "heyyyyy prettyy gurrrlll! I'm Ceciiiiil!"

But he refuses to change his personality and wants to work only on his appearance. And so here I am making this post asking you guys for advice.
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Morvoren · F
I don’t buy that he’s unhappy about his situation if he’s putting selfies on 4chan.

And as for changing his personality - how easy do think that is?

So long as he’s happy, it really doesn’t matter what others think.
EzraIsShy76028 · 22-25
@Morvoren Yeah. The whole situation is weird and he's a weird guy. It's almost like he's a sort of masochist in a way. He's been posting selfies on 4chan more than a decade and people have always been making fun of him, yet he keeps coming back for some reason.

As for him changing his personality, technically it wouldn't be hard if he tried to change it little by little, baby steps, but if he refuses to change then it's impossible.

Oh no, he's definitely not happy. He does nothing but complain about his life all the time. About how ugly he is. About how broke he is. All that stuff. And yet he puts zero effort into changing, and refuses to take advice that me and others give him.