Why is polyamory so looked down on?
Curious to see people's answers. Its been a long time since I asked. Long term poly person here. Let's talk.
26-30, F
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DownTheStreet · 56-60, M
Things that challenge morale conventions always are - the worry that somehow they will unwind our social fabric . Let’s look at a crazy belief in the USA and Canada. Prior to Covid it was very difficult for restaurants to get permits for outdoor dining in front of the establishment. Sidewalk cafe? Never! Then Covid hits and it happens and now most have stayed that way, and guess what … it’s not a problem. People enjoy it. Society did not decay.
I don’t try in poly is for everyone but if it works for those involved and doesn’t hurt others, go for it. Who you love is your choice.
I don’t try in poly is for everyone but if it works for those involved and doesn’t hurt others, go for it. Who you love is your choice.
PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
Social norms. Same reason why people look down on anyone not straight. Not really anything rational or logical about it.
I don't judge and if it works for you that is great.
I personally have not seen many poly relationships that worked but that was because of the people involved not the relationship dynamic. lol
I don't judge and if it works for you that is great.
I personally have not seen many poly relationships that worked but that was because of the people involved not the relationship dynamic. lol
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PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
@chickiegirl95 That is wonderful. Good for you. It is nice to hear when healthy relationships work out.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
You're barely into your thirties, I wouldn't call that long term in any other relationship except for a polyamorous one. It's because they don't last or if the people are still together they can hardly be said to be since they spend all their time with their alternates. Pretty much always a sham when you examine them in depth.
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@chickiegirl95 Love never falters though. That is not a simple "moment," so when it lapses the relationship has ended no matter how the participants present outwardly. It dies once and it's dead for good.
I like these obvious statements because of how easy they are to dispel. Of course you succeed when you put in effort but, just like the incest weirdos, polyamory is never entered into in isolation. The polyamorous don't put in because that's not how they ever are in reality despite the in theory, hypotheticals you could place around it.
I like these obvious statements because of how easy they are to dispel. Of course you succeed when you put in effort but, just like the incest weirdos, polyamory is never entered into in isolation. The polyamorous don't put in because that's not how they ever are in reality despite the in theory, hypotheticals you could place around it.
chickiegirl95 · 26-30, F
@Jackaloftheazuresand you l differ in opinion and that's ok. We are happy in our lifestyle and regardless. The success rate of poly has nothing to do with why it should be negatively viewed
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@chickiegirl95 No not on its own, again. But the falsehood surrounding it does because that kind of deception bleeds into the rest of a person as they excuse it more and more.
You may be happy but I wonder if your partners are and if one or both of them are settling. Of course you could also just be telling yourself a lie too but what are the chances you'd admit that here if it were the case. The long and short of it is that people don't believe you so if you're concerned with being looked down upon you're going to have to provide something more than a testimony. Something that can't be denied.
You may be happy but I wonder if your partners are and if one or both of them are settling. Of course you could also just be telling yourself a lie too but what are the chances you'd admit that here if it were the case. The long and short of it is that people don't believe you so if you're concerned with being looked down upon you're going to have to provide something more than a testimony. Something that can't be denied.
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chickiegirl95 · 26-30, F
@KingofBones1 yes!!!! Huge difference