Why is polyamory so looked down on?
Curious to see people's answers. Its been a long time since I asked. Long term poly person here. Let's talk.
26-30, F
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Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
You're barely into your thirties, I wouldn't call that long term in any other relationship except for a polyamorous one. It's because they don't last or if the people are still together they can hardly be said to be since they spend all their time with their alternates. Pretty much always a sham when you examine them in depth.
chickiegirl95 · 26-30, F
@Jackaloftheazuresand Ive been with my current partner for the last 12 years we've been poly for 4. Our best friends have been in a triad for 25 years.....
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@chickiegirl95 If I were allowed to interrogate the relationship and study it, I'm confident I'd find how it's not really going strong as they say for these 25 plus-ers. Most monogamous people aren't even present in their relations so I'm very skeptical one with more parts is actually chugging along just dandy
chickiegirl95 · 26-30, F
@Jackaloftheazuresand every single relationship has its moments. That's part of loving someone 🤷. Its how you communicate and get through indifference that matters. Its the same for couples as well. Your success rate is based off of how much you and your partner(s) put in
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@chickiegirl95 Love never falters though. That is not a simple "moment," so when it lapses the relationship has ended no matter how the participants present outwardly. It dies once and it's dead for good.
I like these obvious statements because of how easy they are to dispel. Of course you succeed when you put in effort but, just like the incest weirdos, polyamory is never entered into in isolation. The polyamorous don't put in because that's not how they ever are in reality despite the in theory, hypotheticals you could place around it.
I like these obvious statements because of how easy they are to dispel. Of course you succeed when you put in effort but, just like the incest weirdos, polyamory is never entered into in isolation. The polyamorous don't put in because that's not how they ever are in reality despite the in theory, hypotheticals you could place around it.
chickiegirl95 · 26-30, F
@Jackaloftheazuresand you l differ in opinion and that's ok. We are happy in our lifestyle and regardless. The success rate of poly has nothing to do with why it should be negatively viewed
Jackaloftheazuresand · 26-30, M
@chickiegirl95 No not on its own, again. But the falsehood surrounding it does because that kind of deception bleeds into the rest of a person as they excuse it more and more.
You may be happy but I wonder if your partners are and if one or both of them are settling. Of course you could also just be telling yourself a lie too but what are the chances you'd admit that here if it were the case. The long and short of it is that people don't believe you so if you're concerned with being looked down upon you're going to have to provide something more than a testimony. Something that can't be denied.
You may be happy but I wonder if your partners are and if one or both of them are settling. Of course you could also just be telling yourself a lie too but what are the chances you'd admit that here if it were the case. The long and short of it is that people don't believe you so if you're concerned with being looked down upon you're going to have to provide something more than a testimony. Something that can't be denied.