when i was 23 i dated a 48 year old

now im 26 and wouldnt even consider dating someone younger than 25. i like a fully developed frontal lobe, what can i say

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SW-User

I don't blame ya lol

I'm curious though, how was that? Did you feel respected and genuine from him?

When I was 20, i dated a 42 year old, but it was toxic.

Frostcloud · F

@SW-User it was weird. like yes, he cared about my feelings and comfort more than my first boyfriend did. but he was also extremely private in ways that didnt make sense. we broke up because he knew exactly where i worked and lived, because he asked, but he wouldnt share the same information with me. if we werent still friends i would assume he had a secret wife. i feel like age gap relationships are so often toxic, im sorry you experienced that so young. especially as a male, people wont take you seriously for that

SW-User

@Frostcloud wow, do you think he was ashamed of the relationship?

What do you mean by people wont take me seriously for that?

Frostcloud · F

@SW-User when young men are in toxic relationships or taken advantage of people dont always see it as big a deal compared to if a young woman is

im doubtful, he was engaged to a woman my age before he met me but she passed away. his reasoning for not sharing that information was because he was stalked by a past partner and has ptsd from the experience. i dont doubt he has ptsd based on how obsessive he was about other people/cars when we'd go out together. but, like, why would you ask that info of me if you knew you wouldnt share the same 🙄

SW-User

@Frostcloud oh yes, you're right..

hmm, so he was straight up telling you that he was projecting what his past partners did on to you..

Those are all red flags. I hope you find someone right for ya.