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Sugar Babies; Does it lead to a happy life?

I find the whole sugar daddy/baby situation depressing. Don't people want to be able to take care of themselves? Don't they want to have a feeling of accomplishment in doing a good job? Are there not any things other in life besides material things or pampering that bring meaning to their lives?

Also, they would have to hang out with other sugar babies because normal people are working and doing things.

I just think it would be such an empty, boring life.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
I think there's a certain percentage of people who aren't even truly able to take care of themselves, grow on their own and create new valuable things in life. So their options are either slaving in a dead end low wage job or make themselves attractive enough to be able to attach themselves to someone else like a tick and if it's someone rich, they at least enjoy some luxuries in life.
I can't imagine taking such path myself but kind of understand why some women do that.
Living an honest, self-reliant life doesn't guarantee happiness and perhaps they are aware of that.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@CrazyMusicLover That's true as well.
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
I know we're trying to normalize sex work and pretend it's fine, but I don't see men paying for attention as fine.

I know it's human nature. We've been doing it for hundreds of years. Beautiful daughters married off to an old crust flake who can provide handsomely.

All I can assume, as I don't understand, is that love doesn't need to be a factor to stay together. But isn't that many marriages anyway 🤷🏼‍♀️
QueenOfZaun · 26-30, F
I tried it once. It was mostly lonely, poor, desperate guys pretending to be rich so they could attract me and have someone to talk too. So no, not a good way to make money.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@QueenOfZaun Yes, I forgot to mention it can be equally sad for the man; can he really convince himself that the woman actually likes him? The fun of a relationship is that the other person is into you.
morrgin · F
No it doesnt, at least not for the one I know. He supported her for years and when he died she got nothing. They met on sugardaddy.com.
The other one I know didn't meet that way. Not sure how they met. He was a married brain surgeon and got the girl I know pregnant. He gave her an awesome house, nice car, and her own credit cards. Thing I don't get is after she had the baby, his wife helping with raising the child. But years later my old friend still has nice house and all, but all her selfies she takes she's always alone and never looks genuinely happy.
Alababy · 36-40, F
more or less prostitution without actually calling it that. LOL
Magenta · F
@Alababy Exactly.
dilfhunter · 18-21, F
I've never been a sugar baby and don't plan on it. But from my understanding, most of them do it solely for the money. It's pretty easy money and life is tough without money. Also, most of them I'd say are doing other things like school or work and its just something on the side to do at nights or weekends for extra $$.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@dilfhunter Yes, I suppose there are varying degrees of it.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
For those of us that are not in the third world it's easy to be cynical. What would you do in their situation? Why do you think prostitution exists? You're so spoiled. You have no idea what it's like.
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M
@JimboSaturn the family i know couldn't afford salt. The mother had cataracts so bad the youngest daughter had to stay home from school with her. During covid the government gave each family three cans of food and a small bag of rice for a month. The father had died a few years warlier and the savings was wiped out. The "house" was four cinderblock wallscwith sheets of tin over it held down with rocks.

I got her eyes fixed, put him through school (including his GED as you have to pay to go to school there.) And now he's working as a nurse. The youngest girl now has her own bed at age 16 and is in the top three of her class. The house I also had rebuilt. Not everything, but enough. Amazing what you can do for a lot of other people if you just try.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@Tastyfrzz A very different situation. Just goes to shows me not to generalize
Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

Celebrating when I got there in February.
Livingwell · 61-69, M
I have to agree with you. Lack of self respect too.
Bumbles · 51-55, M
Where I live it’s very common. The women usually have a crappy background and also want “stuff.” They are pretty shallow, but work is hard and doesn’t pay well.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@Bumbles Maybe it's a sign of hard times or few decent paying jobs.
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Magenta · F
I concur. Yikes. Seems so empty plus I couldn't give up my independence and individuality, let alone dignity, like that.
Morvoren · F
I’ve never given it any serious thought. It seems like a loose/loose situation.
I wasn’t exactly a sugar baby but before i had several men pay for the “girlfriend experience”.

No. I grew up poor and having access to that kind of money was great to me. I invested it into fixing up the house my grandparents left me and paid for beauty school out of pocket. I never liked people, so the lack of friends was something I dealt with since childhood.
eli1601 · 70-79, M
Haven't had either one since I was a kid

HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M
Pimping is a depressing business
JustNik · 51-55, F
I think it’s hopelessness is all.
Hanginginthere · 31-35, M
Some people would rather just have handouts instead of putting the hard work in
Magenta · F
@Hanginginthere Indeed. There are so many employers (by their own words) who can't find good or any help at all. There are always places looking for employees. I see signs everywhere.
robertsnj · 56-60, M
@Hanginginthere or maybe the sugar babies see the personal attention they give their sugar daddies as the work.

At the end of the day work is compensation in exchange for goods or services. they are providing servies for a price.

on a sidenot their are a number of sugar babies on here--hope they chime in @JimboSaturn great thread/ great question to ask / although maybe a bit loaded in the word choice.
JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
@robertsnj I agree a bit loaded.

 
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