What helps you not put too much pressure on dating?

I simply don't date, b/c I feel SO much PRESSURE. I feel I am not enough (I am working on it a lot). When you have PtSD plus an anxiety disorder that is a good part of your life, you don't exactly feel like men are going to jump to be with you. :( But, it also sucks NEVER, ever dating b/c of it. How can I just look at dating as not so serious and keep overthinking how a guy may leave me? I just want to feel relaxed and look at it as just a fun night, but it is so hard to do b/c I don't know if a guy wants something serious. I need to go slow, and I know many don't. HELP

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AlchemyFox · 36-40, F

There is pressure though.

Do you flirt? Are you actively seeking dates?

Because you can put your feelings upfront and tell someone you want an old fashioned date without pressure. I'd bet a lot of people would like the sound of that. I would too.

I try to think of dates as learning experiences. Before I even dive deep into them I'm observing everything I can. Watching for signs of jerkiness. Feeling out my own comfort level. Hit the breaks if I need to.

You're in control.

If you're upfront, you shouldn't attract the takers and love bombers.