Tips for overcoming trust issues in a relationship & Exploring the challenges and rewards of long-distance relationships

In my experience, there have been numerous instances of fights and disagreements, particularly related to issues of disloyalty. It's disheartening to constantly come across online narratives that portray long-distance relationships as inherently fragile and likely to fail. However, I wonder if there is more we can do to influence the outcome, or if it's solely a matter of fate.

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exexec · 61-69, C

My wife and I started dating at 15 and dated nobody else until both of us went off to college at different universities. I had no choice but to allow her to date others and enjoy the college experience. I was really jealous to know that she was seeing other guys every day and I only saw her once or twice a month during the school year. This went on for 2 12 years until we decided to return to an exclusive dating relationship. This was long before cell phones or the Internet, so we wrote letters to each other every day, professing our love for each other, and talked on the phone twice a week. She convinced me that she loved only me, and I believed her. I didn't ask for details of her dates until after we married, and I am glad that I didn't.

MaybelChong · 46-50, F

@exexec I can see that allowing her to date others would have been hard for you. Didnt you date anyone else? why you say you had no other chance but to let her date someone else?

exexec · 61-69, C

@MaybelChong I didn't the time, desire, or money to date anyone else. Her parents required that she date others in college.