When you date someone...

Do you consciously (or subconsciously) think about what you offer, or "bring to the table "?
Or do you just go in hoping you will simply click/have fun?
I think I feel I dont bring that much to the table, so I get super nervous, and feel who would want someone with the anxiety I have?😢🌺💗

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uncalled4 · 56-60, M

I just hope for a click. I never consider what I bring to the table, because I'm aware of it 24/7. That's just confidence. I know I'm not for everyone, and I'm aware I have faults.

I'm going to teach you to say "What's in it for ME?". That's neither selfish nor an unreasonable request. And, remember that anxiety disorders are plentiful; I have one myself. Having an anxiety disorder doesn't eliminate you as a suitable partner. Someone who won't or can't understand anxiety eliminates THEM as a suitable candidate for YOU.

Definitely work this out with a therapist. I know you'll make a great companion/friend/lover, just something I pick up from you. You bring plenty to the table. Now, we need you to believe that.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@uncalled4 I appreciate that, that is really kind of you🍁 Thank you. 🙂