Never really dated someone I didn't know

@CassandraSissy All of these recent posts are basically coming from being on my own again for the first time in 15 years and I am kind of lost at sea. And well dating is not something I was ever good at.

And can definitely understand why being trans can make things extra challenging. Fortunately there are guys out there present company included who don't care what is on a girl's birth certificate or what her girly bits look like.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow Ah, ok. I get that. I think desperately looking for someone is the wrong way to go, just my own belief there...and, yes, I can see how making some sort of a connection - and friendship - with someone can make it easier. Makes a lot of sense.

I always try to look at what I can take from a situation like this. Not too sure about you. Me? I'd look at the freedom that it would give me to try new things/ideas/concepts that are things that we may have thought about but put off because they're out of our comfort zones or afraid of peer pressure (partner etc)....with only yourself to please...well...the world truly is your oyster.

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@CassandraSissy I am not actually looking to jump into something in a huge rush. My previous relationship was "opened" a few years ago so I had met other people. The truth was it was really just me and my previous partner not being quite ready to admit the obvious that things were actually over between us in any romantic sense. And I thought with everything being official now I could really explore something new with someone new. But now it seems like they disappear for long periods without talking to me and then just pop back into my life like nothing ever happened and I feel sometimes I am just the safe plan B to come back to instead of someone they take seriously.

And I am also somewhat of two minds about my newfound freedom. Sure I would love to travel and do some things. But I am also 40 and I thought my days for playing the field were kind of behind me. So called "meaningful 24hr relationships" don't really have the same appeal anymore.

I guess I am just trying to figure out alot of stuff in my head. And I can't say the comments from the trolls are helping much either.

@Fungirlmmm Basically from how some friends of mine explained it is they need to build a strong emotional bond with someone before they feel any physical attraction. Basically strangers aren't sexy, people they have a strong connection to are. It is an interesting way to be to my mind.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow I love going to the pub, but not to pick someone up. I just go to hangout with friends and have some beers and listen to music.

@basilfawlty89 Oh so do I. But I have had friends try and convince me to look for a girlfriend at the pub and that never struck me as a great way to go about it.

@PicturesOfABetterTomorrow I think that too, sweetie! Not for someone a little more substantial anyways....