So why is it so hard for some guys to talk?

I met a guy over the summer. We had a nice first date. I thought there was potential there. But since then nothing. Instead, he just sends me a random text about once a week with random questions, like "what's better motivation or discipline"? to which I answer and he disappears for the rest of the week.

I try to have a conversation with him and it's just one word answers. He doesn't say anything about himself and it's frustrating. Here's an example? Me: How was your weekend? Him: Good. Me: What did you do? Him: Went places. Me: Where did you go? Him: My friend's.

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BetweenKittensandRiots · 36-40, MVIP

Because we live in a culture that codes self expression as feminine and then implies the worst thing for a guy to be compared to is a woman And not enough women are very publically validating those of us who defy traditional masculinity that its highly visible. if you want men to become expressive what you'd honestly have to do is start sleeping with those of us who step out of line and express ourselves anyways in such a matter that people KNEW what was happening too. because THAT would make men question whether conforming to expectations that we never express ourselves was a great idea.

Bottom line is that it's the norms of masculinity that make so many men terrible at communication. most of us don't want to break them and have been told this is how to charm the ladies. it's wrong- but Welcome to reality. Men have been lied to quite a bit about women.

I write poetry, I would know.