what do you know about the group INCELS? Have you ever come across this type of group member?

I find that some of the men I have met on online dating have been heavily focused on telling me they are dominant.
They expect their woman to be submissive.
But what you're being submissive to is satisfying their sexual appetite.
unfortunately this is not sufficient for me to consider dating someone.
In my experience, I'm expected to fulfill girlfriend or wife duties while he comes and goes as he pleases and I expect his presence only.

I don't feel valued, liked or appreciated, just a resource to their needs, and even if I'm doing what they want they still find someone else on the side to fulfill another pleasure or more.

so what is this and why is this happening?

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Convivial · 26-30, F

This is a smallish group of guys who prefer to carry clubs and hunt in animal skins who never ever quite got to the making fires stage of evolution... Best avoided

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Convivial It's really sad. I don't really understand why groups like this exist and thrive.

I have a dislike for somethings, I've been humiliated by men and badly treated by them. yes its made me cautious but I'm not angry or aggressive towards men.

Convivial · 26-30, F

@Mellowgirl agreed, but they have the wrong idea on how life should be lived... They have the belief that they should be the ones in charge and you should do their bidding... Lucky you lol

Threepio

Deep question....

I don't know anything of the INCELS group.... However,

My take on it:
A lot of men watch a lot of porn these days and if you look at "the majority" of porn, you will find that it portrays a "male dominate" mindset. Life imitates art......

And yes, women watch porn as well.... but a lot of the porn that women watch is porn "by women, for women" (IE Bellesa House) and by its nature is less dominate.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Threepio I agree with you.
It's nonsense.

4meAndyou · F

I'm not an expert, but my understanding of Incels is that they are undesirable single men who have great difficulty getting a woman and/or forming a relationship. Because of this, they often become angry and even violent with women. Watching various detective shows, I learned that FBI profilers will often pick an incel as a killer.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou sad sad world we live in

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

I've always thought a woman is equal to me and deserves to be put on a pedestal and treated like a queen🥰

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Snuffy1957 fair enough.
Everyone is different, I personally don't believe in hierarchy or preferential treatment I just think when you care about someone you try to treat them the best way you can

Snuffy1957 · 61-69, M

@Mellowgirl
Yes exactly

Glassysky · 26-30, M

Stick to ur dog

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Glassysky rude

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Stereoguy Yea but he's so excitable... He sometimes shows and then pounces on me and gives me kisses

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Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Stereoguy not if he's showing his willy in not a dog!

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