When you are starting to date someone...

Do you think of what you may offer them? I get panicked because I fear my anxiety (generalized) will be a deal breaker for them in the short run. I overlook the traits I DO have or offer. But I overlook them because then I feel arrogant if I say to myself, I can offer this or that ( patience, compassion etc) Do you ever ponder these issues while looking for love? Does acknowledging your traits make you feel confident?

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Ontheroad · M

My mantra: Don't overthink dating. Don't make it over complicated. Don't have expectations. Leave your anxieties at home and have fun.

Personally I think the worst thing to do is to start out looking for "the one". Just be you and if you are, your date will let you know if what you are offering is enough for him/her.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Ontheroad Ty so much. I truly want to feel CALM, but I get anxiety ABOUT my anxiety. I know they will find out soon that I dont do a lot of social things, due to anxiety, and I feel I wont be enough for them. Im working on this fear , but I decline interest in me, when I dont WANT to decline😔

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Ontheroad agreed. How did you get to be so wise???

Ontheroad · M

@Mindful By ( for years) overthinking dating.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Ontheroad may you find your fellow comfort zone in real life!

Ontheroad · M

@Mindful I as a matter of fact, do. SW is just a fun past time.

Mindful · 56-60, F

@Ontheroad that’s great to hear! Congrats. SW definitely Keeps me more than company when I’m feelin alone and don’t want to “burden” others. Here I can share my very worst and still feel acceptance (sometimes rejection) and love.