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Don’t you think my cousin is making a big mistake on marrying a man like 13 years older then her?

I personally don’t agree with their age gap and dating but I’m happy for her no matter. My cousin is 31 and her fiancé is 44. He already has two kids from his previous marriage (16 and 12). I mean they’re an amazing couple. I told my cousins it was kind of weird of something that is 40 something years old and it’s bad enough. They looked shocked of what I said. My brother said, “Oh come on. It’s not THAT bad. They’re both adults so they’re in love and that’s all that matters.”
But I said, “I don’t know. It’s still weird. She should date someone her own age.” My sister said, “It’s not weird (my name). Don’t be so judgmental. It’s okay to have an opinion, but they don’t care about your opinion and you need to just be happy for them.”
I was angry that they didn’t agree with me. 44 is too old for a 31 year old woman!
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I traveled all over the World and the formula I've heard most often is HALF + SEVEN (being the minimum age the older person in any relationship should consider dating). So if you apply that formula here.....

Half of 44 is 22
22 + 7 = 29
Therefore 29 would be the minimum age for that guy....

She is 31, so I don't see any issue here.

Having said that... IMO it really has more to do with the maturity levels of the individuals than anything else...
LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F
@Threepio just she’s young and he’s…..well old
@LaylaTheTallGirl In YOUR eyes, he is old.....

What is he in HER eyes?

That is the only thing IMPORTANT here.

Sorry to be blunt.... But simply put "Your opinion does not matter one iota here"
LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F
@Threepio What are you trying to say that I am stupid and have no comment sense?!
@LaylaTheTallGirl Not at all. I'm simply saying that your "view" of your cousin's love-like does not require you to pass judgement upon her. IE: your opinion is irrelevant when it comes to her choice of who she loves.
LaylaTheTallGirl · 22-25, F
@Threepio Ooh okay. I wasn’t trying to be judg mental or anything. I was just stating my opinion. I can’t believe my siblings support that and said it isn’t that bad and they’re in love. So I’m the bad guy? Wow. I thought they would be in the same page but whatever