Merry men of SW, when you are on a first date..

Or meet up etc. With a woman, what is your general frame of mind? What is going through your head? Are you very nervous or not really? How do you remain calm during it? I would like to gain confidence with the romance world, and I wonder if knowing hiw guys are FEELING might aid that. 🌺❣️😌🤔

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Threepio

I'm long out of the dating game.... but when I was actively dating, I was living in a very "target rich environment" (where women outnumbered men >3:1), so I was a little spoiled in regards to who I asked out.....(yes, everyone has a "type")

I don't recall ever being nervous, ...it's a first date, sort of like a "compatibility check" if you will.

My criteria for future interaction was fairly simple.... Before asking any woman for a second date I always asked myself this:

Would I be willing to have children with this woman....

You would be surprised how often the answer was NO. Often the level of maturity and confidence I was seeking were just not there....