Background check? Where do you go to get a background check on someone you are dating... This...

mikeylyksit · 41-45, M

IceQueen88,

You are failing to see the big picture. A relationship can't last unless you are "all in". That goes for both the man and the woman. You are not sure about the relationship. That means there is a 100% chance that the relationship is going to fail.

Is he hiding something? RED HERRING
That's like asking a car owner when was the last time the oil was changed when you already discovered that the transmission has failed. THE ANSWER DOES NOT MATTER

To put it bluntly, this relationship is doomed because of your suspicion. Maybe you are right to be suspicious, and maybe you aren't. But here's the deal...getting him investigated is not going to change your attitude. If the investigation turns up nothing, you will feel a little better...but your heart still won't be in it.

Time to let this one go...

luckranger71 · 51-55, M

Trust your gut. Also, do not introduce anyone to your child until at least 6 months of dating. People will generally show who they are within 90 days or so.