Online dating is definitely brutal for most men(even more so I guess for young men). Do you agree?

I have been using dating apps like tinder, Hinge and Bumble since June or July 2022 but pretty much no matches at all on tinder and Bumble and only 16 matches on Hinge so far. I am 22 now and kept my filter as 18-26 on them so 3-4 years in both directions. Last month, I did get some matches on Hinge. First was a 19 year old and her replies were slow but she did reply to me but after I asked her out, she unmatched me. Then got matched by a 22 year old who completely stopped replying after matching. Then got matched by an 18 almost 19 year old girl with whom I had a decent convo but her replies were all 1-3 words and then got unmatched by her. Then got matched by a 20 year old who too ghosted me the same way like the 22 year old did. Then didn’t get a single match for weeks and today finally got a match today on Hinge. She is also 18 almost 19 but she only replied once and isn't replying further anymore and she eventually unmatched me too. Isnt it brutal? Why match if she was gonna unmatch?

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hiddenallison · 36-40, F

I think it is amazing how all this turns around when you get older.. My Uncle is around 55, super nice guy.. Got Divorced recently... He is doing On line dating , with woman his age, and he gets Non Stop actvivity, dates. He is just an average looking guy, a little overweight, He get so many dates he can't afford to go on all of them.. Seeems after 50, guys hold all the cards! LOL

TxOutlawTyler · M

@hiddenallison can we Chat

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

@hiddenallison I (we) do. It’s crazy how easy it is to pull women at my age .

hiddenallison · 36-40, F

@AthrillatheHunt I believe you.. My uncle is killing it , He said it is hard to manage it all

userfawkes1105

There’s a lot left unsaid and up to interpretation from text. Even in real life this is tricky. Sometimes the chemistry if easier seen in real life. But online or real life there’s always a risk. And the chemistry is like a treasure in our modern day world.

DrRiddler ·

The trick is to give up on finding true love,
If it happens upon you it will fit like a glove.
But you will find that happiness so true,
Can only be found by searching within of you.

BoredDarkLord

Never done it. I approached my wife and all my exs in person. It’s more real.

Heroisthebest24 · 22-25, M

@BoredDarkLord idk your age but I assume you are over 40. You grew up in a different time compared to me. When you were a young man like me there wasnt so much internet or social media so all you people had to do was approach girls in person whereas we Gen Zers have too much access to social media and dating apps which makes things harder and people have too much unrealistic expectations.

BoredDarkLord

@Heroisthebest24 Its not a decided thing. You can choose not to be a part of social media at any time, and do things on your own terms. I had a foot in both worlds, but I decided what would happen, not popular opinion.

SW-User

I completely agree. I deleted my tinder because it was absolutely awful. I have a conspiracy that these companies designed an algorithm to do just this because they know guys are going to get desperate and buy premium.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

At your age you have low value and women have high value .
That will change when you hit 30. The best is yet to come dude .

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