I just rang the helping hand and talked about my recently deceased wife

, how she was funny and cute, and how I left the apartment exactly how she made it. And I talked about my solitude. I talked about absolutely everything going on in my life for 40 minutes. Then he said okay well have a good night bye. It feels really cold. I’m in a worse place than I was before I called.😓
I’m in Switzerland, where people are pretty clinical… But I feel like some of these people are predators

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PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

I think some people in helping positions can get burnt out and start to lose compassion. Eventually if you're listening to people tell you their problems constantly, I think there's a danger you'd put up a wall in order to protect your own mental health. I definitely don't think it predatory or personal towards you. Sorry you're struggling right now. Hugs 🤗

Oneofthestormboys · 56-60, M

@PatientlyWaiting25 You are so right about that. You’ve managed to put into words exactly where I’m at too.

TheDeathOCuHullainn

That is an awful experience. Try not to let it put you off calling again. Sometimes even people with the best intentions have an off day or make mistakes, we all do.

Ferise1 · 46-50, M

@TheDeathOCuHullainn thank you. The Swiss are very cold though. There’s a saying about heaven and hell, in heaven the cooks are French, the mechanics are German, and the Swiss organise everything.
In hell the lovers are Swiss… I forget how the rest goes.

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Ferise1 · 46-50, M

@OogieBoogie G I can’t stand it… do you have friends and family?

OogieBoogie · F

@Ferise1 I have kids, but not really a lot of friends. My son is special needs so i never really developed a social life.

Im sorry....talking about my personal lifeakes me feel awkward.
Id prefer not to answer any more questions.

Sorry 🤷‍♀

Ferise1 · 46-50, M

@OogieBoogie that’s alright you pretty much answered my question. Best of luck.😊

MayorOfCrushtown · M

some people dont need to be in a helping profession or role....... they dont have the empathy needed.

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MayorOfCrushtown · M

@OogieBoogie i have a Bachelors in Psych. and that does help. but, they cant teach you empathy. either you have it or you dont. and alot of it is common sense. there are just some things you dont say. sadly, some therapists do more harm than good.

OogieBoogie · F

@MayorOfCrushtown i may be being arrogant here, but i really believe that people should have some sort of experiece in the area they are couselling if they dont have any natural empathy.

Otherwise they just do ignorant damage.

Ive heard more than a few stories where people have called couselling lines and then tried to off themselves.

Ive never EVER found them helpful in any way.
Unfortunately and disappointingly.

Its just the governments way of thinking "yep, got it covered".

Actually, in all truth, places like SW are better.
At least you have a chance of someone understanding or empathising.

MayorOfCrushtown · M

@OogieBoogie i do wonder how well they screen the employees or volunteers in those places.
if you dont have the proper people trained to screen, that can be a disaster. you are right though. people need experience in the field they are helping. people having marriage problems need to talk to people who have been married. people having problems with their kids need to talk to other people who have kids. etc etc.

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