I just rang the helping hand and talked about my recently deceased wife

, how she was funny and cute, and how I left the apartment exactly how she made it. And I talked about my solitude. I talked about absolutely everything going on in my life for 40 minutes. Then he said okay well have a good night bye. It feels really cold. I’m in a worse place than I was before I called.😓
I’m in Switzerland, where people are pretty clinical… But I feel like some of these people are predators

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MayorOfCrushtown · M

some people dont need to be in a helping profession or role....... they dont have the empathy needed.

OogieBoogie · F

@MayorOfCrushtown i completely agree.

I even think they should pass an aptitude test before being allowed to be put in such a position.

Ive used some before and ended up in tears. Once, after calling one....i self harmed coz they made me feel so useless and lost....they were so awful .

EVERY person in a couselling type position should KNOW and feel what they are dealing with.

MayorOfCrushtown · M

@OogieBoogie i have a Bachelors in Psych. and that does help. but, they cant teach you empathy. either you have it or you dont. and alot of it is common sense. there are just some things you dont say. sadly, some therapists do more harm than good.

OogieBoogie · F

@MayorOfCrushtown i may be being arrogant here, but i really believe that people should have some sort of experiece in the area they are couselling if they dont have any natural empathy.

Otherwise they just do ignorant damage.

Ive heard more than a few stories where people have called couselling lines and then tried to off themselves.

Ive never EVER found them helpful in any way.
Unfortunately and disappointingly.

Its just the governments way of thinking "yep, got it covered".

Actually, in all truth, places like SW are better.
At least you have a chance of someone understanding or empathising.

MayorOfCrushtown · M

@OogieBoogie i do wonder how well they screen the employees or volunteers in those places.
if you dont have the proper people trained to screen, that can be a disaster. you are right though. people need experience in the field they are helping. people having marriage problems need to talk to people who have been married. people having problems with their kids need to talk to other people who have kids. etc etc.