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I keep waiting on him...

He told me he liked me, and wanted to make me his gf! Thats been a long time ago...
I accepted.
He told me he needed me and asked to someday be more than his gf, wanted me to be his wife.
I said let me think about it...thats been a long time..many days ago..
Days went by..weeks..months..then we had a disagreement.
He ghosted me for several days and I was left in tears.
I picked up, moved on..he came back asking me to be his gf again..like ugh..then i confused myself with is he a myth or playing head games?
He says he liked how i am looking now, he enjoys the chase, but im broke by the silence.
On again, off again..never met IRL!
At the least I got a picture, a promise..yet no follow through..i asked whats the holding process..why are you running away?
He responded busy with work..ok understood.
So when youre not so busy..i wont chase nor bother you. I go silent. No messages for days, three weeks later he asked you alright? I do not respond, i do not chase. Im not a vendor machine..im not a pot of playdough..im not just for entertainment purposes only..but he responds i must wait.
What am i waiting for?
How long must I wait?
No response.
Months turn over to new seasons..he replies, its the job..its a secret mission, its war, its famin, its sometimes things i cant explain..i feel crushed, yet hopeful...
Then he replies, i have another mission..i have a longer stay..i shall be gone much longer than it was anticipated..will you still wait for me?
Yes. I shall wait..
Been 3 yrs..still waiting. 5 was originally planned, now it may be 10 depends on this war.
The navy, the army, the marines, it doesnt matter the branch, the replies, the deployments..what matters is Will I wait for him?
One true love..one answer..one man for the rest of my life to get to the best of my life..yes, I shall each day wait...
Do any other wives out there that also have a fiance enlisted or have military men, feel like this?
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MizzO · 36-40, F Best Comment
Been there done that. The man is married with children and using you as a relief from his regular life😒 and there was a point where I wanted to just accept it... But for what. It will never change and he will come back as often as you let him and whatever conversation you have will be great but it will never progress. And even if he says things that make it seem different, there will be no actions behind the words. No steps made me no future plans with dates and places. Nothing. Just hope and dreams. Move on with your life because he will waste it if you let him. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
CloudAngel80 · 41-45, F
@MizzO thank u for the clarity..i really been quiet about it, until he says babe i love you but work is so hard..i asked what can i do to help ease it for you? Days later..response is, nothing really..and a smile face...so yes it hurts so bad im just an object or a second back up when HIS life sux. Im not for entertaining purposes..i mean ive gotta be worth more ..thank you for the advice. It hurts, but truthfully, i NEEDeD a sign..thank u


 
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