Here's what i see as a problem with heaven. Feedback appreciated

So you've made it to heaven. Well done!
But when you get there, you find out that your husband/wife or children or some other person dear to you hasn't made it in.

How do you enjoy paradise knowing that person who is dear to you is suffering?
Or is your memory of that person erased and if it is, would that be a desirable circumstance? Would you want that person you loved to cease to exist for you?

Thoughts?