Did your mom ever show you how to do makeup?

Or talk to you about boys or dating?
Talk to you about yourself as a young lady?
About what to expect from relationships, how to respect yourself..?
Hold you/comfort you when you were sad?
Do girls nights together?

I longed for any of those things. Unfortunately , never had or got even one.
I didn't even wear any makeup, until I was 17. Most girls now are applying it by 11 or 12 years old. I wonder how much more of life I could live with ease, with confidence etc. if any need or want had actually been filled by my 'mother'. It really makes me sad , but I'm trying to push onward and upward in any way.

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sarabee1995 · 31-35, F

Yes. For sure. She started by teaching me to do my eyes in middle school and the "makeup education" continued from there.

The "boys & dating" conversations were slower to develop because I never really had much interest. She would bring it up and I'd be like,"I'll let you know when it becomes an issue!" 🤣

The "young lady" conversation was ongoing and constant. She denies it now, but I know she'd rather have had a girly daughter. 🤷‍♀

Not "girls nights" but shopping trips. My mom was (and is) a huge believer in retail therapy. I learned that anytime she said let's go shopping, it meant she had something she wanted to talk to me about. 🤣

Baybreeze · 41-45, F

@sarabee1995 It's nice reading that. To know real care and kindness exist...thank you Sara. The retail therapy sounds so fun ,☺