Domination and submission on line

I was thinking about why a dominant/submissive relationship that is online only can be so very good.

If I (for example) kiss you (for example) in an online chat, it can feel wonderful if we have good imaginations, but it isn't really happening.

But if you (for example) dominate me (for example), the dominance and submission are really happening. I really am giving over some power to you, you really are taking some control over me.

D/S is perfect for an online / long-distance relationship because the central "sex act", the exchange of power, is as real as it would be anywhere.

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PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

Can't see how that can possibly be true. For the power exchange to be real and meaningful, D/s relationships require intense psychological and emotional connection that's built on communication and trust. How do you develop that online with a stranger you never met?

LeotardWearer · 56-60, M

@PatientlyWaiting25 I had a 4 month “connection” with a lady online that was D/s. Definitely needs a long term relationship for it to be valid. I am still not sure that any true understanding can be established online. There is always that superficial nature of online. I suspect 99.9% is just findom

PatientlyWaiting25 · 46-50, F

@LeotardWearer exactly. It can only ever be superficial online and leave you wanting more.

ThePatientAnarchist · 61-69

@PatientlyWaiting25 @LeotardWearer all I can tell you is that I have had that in a years-long relationship. Don't you feel close enough to some people on here, or elsewhere on line, that something deep could happen?