Why do some people look at gorgeous/attractive people and say how sexy and beautiful/handsome...

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

It's not really about looks. That's just being shallow. It's their personality and how well you get along with them that most people look for

exexec · 61-69, C

Some of us get lucky both ways. I started dating my wife when she was a freshmen in high school and I was a sophomore. She was cute, but not one of the most beautiful girls. She had a great personality and I immediately fell for her. Over the next few years, she turned into a beautiful young lady, voted one of the five most beautiful in her college, and still had the great personality.

DoubleRings · 51-55, F

You can recognize beauty and not be interested in that person. Similarly, one might appreciate something even more value able about the person who is average.

I think some actors are smoking hot. The best love I ever knew was someone who looked opposite of what I was attracted to (and also average looking) and had a facial deformity.

Anyway, looks are fleeting.

DarkSideoftheMoon · 31-35, F

Because some people fall inlove with someone they really can get on with, they love them on an emotional level and love who they are vs how they look and when someone captures your heart in that way they physically look 10xs better in their eyes. Love is blind to things like that

PaleandPolluted · 36-40, F

This is what I've always wondered. I think they pick personality instead and can't be bothered with the hassle a good looking person brings.

SW-User

Because some people prefer to live in the real world not in a world of delusion.

Another part of the delusion is that many average looking women think they are hot stuff when they're really not. Maybe your friends are just as average as their average partners.

Let me ask you a question. How many men would pick you over a hot super model if they had the option?

SW-User

What's average to you might be attractive to them.
There is no formula for what attractive is.

WhateverWorks · 36-40

I think part of the issue is that you’re assuming because the guys are more average looking that means they aren’t attractive when in reality most people have a diverse range of aesthetics they find attractive. My partner doesn’t look like a model, but he’s still an attractive man, especially to me.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Because most people aren’t shallow

LunarOrbit · 56-60, M

I have an oriental friend who has been waiting for a Michelle Pfiffer to walk into his life. 40 yrs later he’s still single and likely will die single.

redredred · M

Because even ugly people admire beauty, attainable or not.

AthrillatheHunt · 51-55, M

What you want versus what you can get .

assemblingaknob · 26-30, F

Not true.

PoeticPlay · 51-55, M

REMsleep · 41-45, F

Its not settling. Day dreaming about celebrities has nothing to do with real life at all. You aren't ever going to meet Taylor Lautner or have a chance with any member of One Direction.
Those looks are a fantasy anyway. Most guys would look excellent if they had a nutritionist and stylist and personal trainer and plastic surgery.

Why do some people look at gorgeous/attractive people and say how sexy and beautiful/handsome they are but go for average partners?