Why do men get so offended when women talk about how they have been abused by men ?

On some level they probably feel blamed, even though they’re not personally responsible. I know how I feel when men talk about bad experiences with women, I wonder if they dislike all women as a result.

The problem is, that very few people realize that there are men who’ve been abused by women, but many of them fear reporting it because they will be considered weaklings…wimps…cry babies. Abusive women can be as vicious as men.

It is personal. It can sound insulting that you say women say men are abusive to them and men are offended by talking about it because of the accusatory nature of it.

People are good, bad & ugly all around, but a man hitting, verbally or mistreating a lady does not sit well with me or most men i know. I hope you understand to put most "men" in a category that would, is, well, sickening.

They're trying to create psychological distance between themselves and the subject, usually because they're sensitive to how they're perceived and this distance will seemingly absolve them of blame.

I hadn't thought about with regards to the abuse women face, but it does make sense because it's the exact same mechanism people use with regards to racial topics.

I've noticed that whenever instances of marginalization are brought up against racial minorities, white people go to great lengths to dominate the conversation with how they're not racist, were raised to treat people equal, have X, Y, or Z friends, etc.

It completely diverts the topic because these people are fundamentally egocentric and can't or won't empathize with the subject of certain mistreatments. They'd rather be regarded in high esteem and use psychological distance from the matter to avoid any kind of responsibility or self-reflection

Denial, shame, shock… many reasons, the gap between the sexes is closing, physically especially, but women aren’t afraid to speak out now, we no longer stand for such things

Men are somewhat hot snowflakes IMO

Always on the defensive, cant have dudes insulted because well it might include them

I find that when I read about abuse at least one woman will always lump all men together and leave the opinion that there are none good out there.

Why do women ask why men get so offended when women talk about how they have been abused by men ?

I don't know that men get offended by that.

No idea what you are talking about.

I'm a man and I am not offended when women speak of abuse they've suffered at the hands of men.

Not all men do

Hmmm....there are so many excellent answers in the comments. Have you found that to be the case with men you meet in real life or here online?

Ass holes get offended

i dont 🤷‍♂️