Unwanted kink

@InterdimensionalSideEye the point is not about telling him it's about not wanting a kink. It's about when you like something that totally goes against your morals. Just because other people are okay with it doesn't mean that I am okay with it....but I happen to find myself attracted to it. It's like being turned on by having someone spit in your face... Some people like it and are completely turned on by it. They don't even try to justify it because it's something really sexy to them. Someone else might find that repulsive but still when put in that situation get turned on...now that's a distressing situation because the whole concept of it is not something the receiver would ever agree with.

@MizzO
I'm sure that you have noticed in him things he has not told you. You know what he likes and what he'd definitely not go for. He didn't have to tell you those things.
Yes?

@MizzO About the Christian thing. I go to church and I don't have to be told explicitly what some of these women think when they greet me.

@TheHammer fair point

@DancingStarGoddess I'm much the same way. Day to day Im not in a position to submit so talking like that is out of the question. I'm not concerned about him being into it. He might be. I just don't want to be. It's such a contrast from who I am day to day...

@MizzO I understand. Sometimes over time you can allow yourself to come to a point to where you are so fulfilled in other ways that it is not necessary. It isn't for me as there are many other things that are equally as rewarding. I suppose just substitute it with something you find personally acceptable?

@DancingStarGoddess yeah I'm working on it. Patience is something I'm still developing 😒

@justmeonline shadow self?

@MizzO It's a term some psychologists use.