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nobody believes me

I feel outcasted. the past almost 2 months my husband's family has been spreading rumors that I am back on drugs. I am clean, 8 years. I struggled hard for about a year with opiate addiction when my first born was a baby and i have been doing very good with staying clean since. i feel like they want to tear my family apart and see my fail. what should i do?
Indy74 · 46-50, F Best Comment
Believe in yourself and your husband. Keep your family together!! You got this!! 8 years is great!! Im going on 15 years myself now!! 💖
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
@Indy74 thank you so much!
Indy74 · 46-50, F
@Indy74 thanks for BC.....🙏

I think your husband should have a talk with them. It's not fair and he should take up for you, being he is your husband. This is not right, them treating you like this.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Stay strong, ignore them, and get on with a clean life. You know the truth in your heart, and I'd have to guess your husband knows the truth, and it's the two of you that matter.
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
Does your husband believe you’re clean? If so, his family can suck it.

Congratulations on getting clean
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
@WaryWitchWandering he says he believes me but then throws comments out there that counteract that statement...im at a loss on how to feel and or react.
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Katysblogs if he believes you, and youre testing clean…. He should be on your side and sticking up for you
btchstfu · F
at the end of the day people will always talk, so id say just focus on yourself and your family. proud of u on getting clean xx
eMortal · M
All you need is one person to believe you and that should be your husband. He should step up to defend your honor.
Sounds like your hubbys family is trying to break up your marriage
Question is does your hubby have more faith in you or them
Either way do what is best for you even if it means removing those that dont have faith in you from your life
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
@ExperienceDLT im not entirely sure anymore. i dont know where his faith lays at this moment.
@Katysblogs it will show one way or another but like i said dont let anyone drag you down not even your husband if it ends up he does not believe in you
Show him the door and find someone that does believe in you
sasanack · 61-69, M
the trouble that surrounds Addiction is multi layered ,apart from the ignorant who dont get it all, the old adage how do you know when a junkie is lying every time he opens is mouth is the classic put down always gets a laugh from the ignorant. To recovering addict with 8 years clean time it is a total disrespect to the person who pulled themselves out of the Abysson their b7y them selves, solo and will continue to do so for the rest of their lives. for some addicts that could of been a trigger thats all it takes no all but for some. katy you will always be under suspicion no matter how long or hard you work to stay clean the stigma is still very attached to the lying junkie, recognising addiction as medical problem s oppose to a criminal one helped a little but not much. congrats on your clean time i tip my hat to you one day at a time good luck
Graylight · 51-55, F
You know the answer to this. Continue living your life just as you do, clean and sober. There will always be people who don’t forgive, who can’t believe and will use something like this as a weapon every chance they get. Get to meetings if you currently don’t to maintain that sobriety, but once sober we understand that we don’t live by other peoples’ feelings.
HellsBelle · 31-35, F
tell them to random drug test you whenever they want. if you have nothing to hide you have nothing to lose. but if you respond, "they should just trust me", nope. doesn't work like that after you have hurt people. now is the time for proof. and if you REALLY wanna prove it, buy the drug tests yourself.
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
@HellsBelle i do uas every week...it doesnt change what they think...
Pretzel · 61-69, M
good job on beating down the addiction. those drugs have ruined a lot of good lives.

people that got hooked because a doctor prescribed them for legitimate reasons.

live your good life - make amends to those that you've hurt - and the rest can go f....well, they can just mind their own business.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
I had a family member like that, she's horrible. We cut her off and I haven't spoken to her in about 7 years.

I'd try and not associate with them as much as possible, select the people who you can trust and keep them.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Oh and congratulations on 8 years, that's insane 🙂
Are you testing and testing clean???
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
@HootyTheNightOwl yes, i have had 4 dirty UAs in 8 years for cocaine and they were all over 5 years ago.
Katysblogs · 26-30, F
the past 5 years no dirtys
@Katysblogs Tell them to prove it, then. If you know that you will test clean at any second, put the burden of proof on them.

Since you know that you will test clean, it just leaves them looking stupid at the end of the day.
revenant · F
I have not had a good experience with inlaws.

 
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