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How do you let go of loving an addict?

How do you finally cut it off and let yourself heal?
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You don't. You keep praying for and loving that person whom addiction has gotten hold of, however, you don't have to be around that person if it's ruining your health or other's health. Your first obligation is to stay true to yourself, take good care of yourself, and love and respect yourself enough to say, "That's enough." Then walk away. You don't have to stand by and watch someone destroy themselves and drag you with them.

If I was married to that person, I would tell them, "When you go through rehab, anger management, and stay in counseling until you are completely well and finished with it, then we'll talk. But not until. I won't live like this. I deserve better." Trouble is, women always seem to give in when the person is halfway through and they're begging their wife to come back and everything, and that's the worst thing you could do. That never works. If you love that person, then make sure that person finishes the whole course. But you, and if you have children, deserve better and you need to get away where you're safe and the children don't have to witness this nor be abused. In the end, if you are married, your husband would be grateful to you. But you can't be weak and go back. And it really is best if you move some place where he can't find you until he gets well. Children don't need to be around that. It is dangerous. Otherwise, he'll be crying around and calling you constantly and driving you crazy.