How do you let go of loving an addict?

For me, I had to realize that all the chances I kept giving them was enabling their addiction and toxic behavior, not helping them. Ultimately I realized that if I loved them I had a responsibility to let them go. To not let them go was almost selfish on my part and away. I realize that in order for them to even have a chance of overcoming their addiction I had to let them reap the consequences of their choices. I could still be emotionally supportive, but it was important for me to not be invested anymore (no more bailing them out, no more shielding them, no more honeymoon phase until the next bs).

I also knew there was a high probability that they would seek out other enablers, but that’s some thing I don’t have control over just like I don’t have control over them. Just because I think I love somebody and wanna be with them doesn’t mean I get to decide that they are ready to overcome their addiction, take the long road of recovery, walk away from their unhealthy support system that encourages the addiction, make new friends, resolve their guilt and shame once they are sober, discover healthier coping mechanisms, deal with their probably trauma then choose me without feeling triggered.