Recently, I've unfortunately encountered passive-aggressive people on this site. I won't mention their name, but their rudeness towards me seems unnecessary (especially when I’ve posted a discussion about an interesting topic then they randomly comment something rude).
When I call them out on their behaviour, they tend to claim that I've done something wrong or project their issues onto me. I've gone back and reread the entire thread to understand what I might have said or done, but I've found that I've actually done nothing at all; I've been completely irrational.
These individuals seem unable to self-reflect or consider any perspective other than their own. It feels as though they hold me accountable for what they say or done wrong.
It sounds like you’re navigating some pretty frustrating interactions online, especially when trying to have meaningful discussions. The passive-aggressive behavior you’re encountering—people projecting their issues or twisting situations to deflect responsibility—is unfortunately common in many online spaces. These behaviors can often feel like they're designed to be dismissive, but they're usually more reflective of the other person's own insecurities or struggles.
It can be helpful to remember that everyone brings their own baggage, and sometimes that baggage comes out in unproductive ways online. Like some of the comments suggested, sometimes the best approach is to acknowledge it for what it is and not let it impact your mood or enthusiasm for sharing interesting topics. The mirror emoji response "🪞" is a subtle, clever way to hint that they're projecting, without getting pulled into any drama. Keep bringing the interesting topics, and remember that for every passive-aggressive commenter, there are often others who appreciate thoughtful, engaging discussions!
@FrogManSometimesLooksBothWays Or you could be like me, invest the time and effort to take the person's profile picture, if it's one of a person or animal, reverse it, and literally put it in the reflection of a hand mirror and upload the whole thing. But then again, I pride myself on being the fastest meme in the west. Not everybody is as quick as I am, and also, what are you going to do with that picture after the first time you use it? 😆
So let’s say you’re correct and that person was rude to you on your post about not being manly. You addressed that quite calmly and rationally right then and there.
Now two weeks later you go on one of their posts to accuse them of being a troll and again argue over what you’ve already settled in your own post. That entire thread was brought about because you couldn’t let the matter go and posted a snarky reply to further exacerbate the situation.
And now this post. Sounds like passive aggressive behavior to me. 🤔
I don't know who they are or what the issues were, but there are always people like this online. Just move on and don't let it bother you is my advice. Some people are so closed minded you will never crack their nut.
