People are so fickle

As I've stated before, I'm trying to get a more booming social life.

I use bumble [b]bff[/b] the friend-making side of the app.

We chatted for about a week, hung out once (it went great), I offered a few other outings we could go to this month. She asked for the info so I sent it in a text.

1 day passed
2 days passed- I asked if she was able to view the info

Her: "Oh sorry, work has been really busy, I'll look at it when I get off"

Today makes day 3.

I wont text her again.

When we spoke while we were in person, she told me she works from home, has plenty of down time and sometimes gets off work early when things aren't busy.

Why do people give the runaround?

I almost feel like I should stop being honest with people.

Maybe I should just lie and tell them everything they want to hear🤷🏾‍♀️

"Yea I have tons of friends already, I love my job, I love everything about my life and everything is just great"!

It seems like if you don't have a friend circle for them to join, they don't want anything to do with you.

I have plenty of things that I do, I'm NOT a homebody.

IDK, I do not understand making new friends as an adult.

Not really looking for suggestions, just people to listen.
I've tried everything as far as making friends go

I've heard from her since this was posted

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Blanchy · 31-35, F

Maybe you should try to find someone who already has a friend circle, and when she brings up her friends, ask if you can meet/join them sometime. Maybe she felt awkward being one on one. It's probably easier to make friends if there are more people, it will feel more relaxed and you might get along better with some than others.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Blanchy it felt very relaxed, we were skating and chatting. We talked nearly nonstop. I'm not interested in joining someone else's friend group. I want my own. I've heard from her since this post

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

It’s definitely harder to make friends as an adult. There are even mom cliques if u can believe that. Like the moms of your kids, friends. They will not want to get to know you unless you know one of their friends.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Jenny1234 yea it's really weird. She just texted back. Guess she's been hard at work for the last 3 days🙄 Guess I'll respond sometime Saturday🤷🏾‍♀️

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

@iamnikki that’s good to hear!

Magenta · F

[quote]People are so fickle[/quote]
Indeed.
Have you found this to be true in real life though? I feel it's a big(ger) problem on social sites.

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Magenta yes, real life as well.

Chickie · F

Friendships and relationships are more difficult this age. I've always had a hard time keeping relationships with people because I struggle with isolation.

Elanor · F

I sound like a pessimist old fart here but the saying goes “the world is going to hell in a handbasket”

More like the world is going to hell in an App.

Jokes aside … learning new hobbies is the way to meet and engage with people who ‘get you’ .. and I feel real life is where it’s at

Don’t lose heart … plenty of folk feel the same as you … I recently joined a dance class with a friend of mine to socialise more, it’s a laugh and we get our workout at the same time

Keep going 🦋

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Elanor I've joined a workout class too. Hard to meet anyone when there is a class in session directly before your class. So you can't go in and mingle with other people who are early.

The music is loud so what am I supposed to say to the people next to me?

Before it's even over, people are walking out

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