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Does this sound okay for an apology?

Nanny got hurt and felt she was being accused by my partner,

He wants to text with 'I'm sorry if our discussion came out wrong last week. We trust you with the kids and everything that comes with it. You mean a lot to us and them. Moving forward, I am open to speak to discuss anything bothering you.
Fenella · 51-55, F
@questionWeaver We told her she was trusted and that she meant a lot to us all. Does that count for nothing?
@Fenella hollow words are still hollow

Go locate a priest to discuss the method of apologizing

It is well understood ... I am sure, at some point, somebody educated you on the way to ask for forgiveness and suggest a path forward

If not, then go to the source of forgiveness and get a lesson or too.

It is easy!
@Fenella apologies, grace and forgiveness were brought to the world's attention by Christ. The catholic churches, for over 1800 years have brought the message forward.

The message has worked into legal systems around the world

To apologize

(1) Acknowledge specificly what you did wrong

(2) Provide an assurance you will not do it again

(3) Agree to cure any damages

(5) Suggest a path forward

This is not complicated.

They go over this in Catholic Church service everytime communion is held.

This is how to apologize

Anything else is not an apology.

There is no clause 4, section 5.1.4 that says - Skip the above and tell the nanny she is valued.
Poppies · 61-69, F
It does not sound like your partner is actually admitting to having done wrong, so it is not an apology.
@Poppies Thank you !
No texting is no way to go. Quit being a coward and face them.
Fenella · 51-55, F
@1234567890a Agreed but we won't be seeing her until next week.
Fluffybull · F
@1234567890a 👌👏❤️
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
She’s probably looking for another job if she didn’t pick up the call.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@fenella] yes i think a one to one meeting would rather be the better way to sort out any issues
Fenella · 51-55, F
@Fluffybull Why not?
InHeaven · F
Nanny is who...a babysitter?
InHeaven · F
...what did he accuse her of?@Fenella If I started having doubts about a babysitter, I would apologize and not bring her back..
InHeaven · F
@Fenella ...many parents’ instincts are true
Fenella · 51-55, F
@InHeaven It was nothing like that. She got the wrong end of the stick but it was my partners fault. We trust her.
If that’s easier or more expedient than a face to face, that’s fine, although for the last sentence,
[quote] Moving forward, I am open to discussing anything bothering you.[/quote] is a little clearer (imo).
Fenella · 51-55, F
@bijouxbroussard Thank you. We were worried that last part sounded a little passive
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Is this the nanny that you expect to be a slave to you and drop everything outside of work hours to come care for your kids.

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