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I Have BPD - Borderline Personality Disorder

I love someone who is excessively moody. Being around him is like tiptoeing on a minefield. I've consulted Dr. Google and I seriously wonder if he has BPD, but he gets upset when I bring it up. Maybe he is just ultra-sensitive?

He is not always this way, but when it comes out I have serious doubts about my future with him. Being on constant guard with a person is no way to live.

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everyoneknows · 31-35, T

maybe just immature and selfish who knows

curiosi · 61-69, F

Can't set yourself on fire to keep another warm.

freebird · F

Yes, I like the analogy. :(

BellaLocura · 51-55, F

Very good analogy!

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yeah... but you can't just walk out on him. You can't...

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Yeah... I don't mean to come off like you don't count or that you are stuck or have no right to your feelings. I am sure you going through hell with all of this and it's not something you asked for or deserve. I wish I had someone in my life like he has with you... sorry for feeling envious.

freebird · F

@MarkPaul: Well if I walk out of his life he won't have me anymore.. and that honestly hurts me to think about. At least you are aware of your problems..

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

yeah... but I didn't just wake up one day and scream out, "I have problems and I know what they are." I put a lot of effort into the denial routine myself.

RedRhapsody · 31-35, F

I have a friend like that, but he only gets moody when I tell him to stop doing something/behaving in a certain way. Then he makes makes every attempt to deny that he had done anything..
Otherwise, he's sweet but a bit obnoxious and immature. I feel like the adult of our friendship (he's in his late 30s), and sometimes I question whether or not I can continue.

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RedRhapsody · 31-35, F

When the person makes you second-guess yourself or force you to believe something that never happened, that's called "Gas Lighting", and once that happens.. Distance yourself quickly. And as far as the unpredictability is concerened, that's definitely a red flag because some cases often turn physical.. Especially if the temper is not kept in check..
All in all, no amount of love is worth going crazy over... Period. Life is too short to put yourself through hell with someone who stresses you out. You deserve to be happy..

freebird · F

@RedRhapsody: Yeah I recently watched that movie because of him. It's not that he'll absolutely deny that something happened, only the causes and the problems that ensue. Oh, and if it turns physical I am out of there in two seconds.

Yes I do deserve to be happy, but if only I could "fix" him we could both be happy, together..

RedRhapsody · 31-35, F

Good to hear that you have a plan. And I know, but what you're dealing with may be so deeply ingrained within his psyche that it may take an actual psychological intervention to at least help him recover. No matter what you decide to do about your situation, just stay safe and always remember that you deserve the best..

BellaLocura · 51-55, F

I have had friends that are that way, one of whom I had to cut out of my life. I will say that having a romantic relationship with a borderline person is no east feat, especially if they refuse therapy.

Mugin16 · 46-50, M

That sounds very familiar, sadly. Are you still in this relationship?

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