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I Hate Feeling Like I Dont Matter

There is less than $200 in my account, and I am the person in the household appointed to buy groceries. But I also have a disabled dog to take care of, who has an eye appointment tomorrow for his cataracts and glaucoma issues. My boyfriend gets paid a lot more than I do, but he mostly worries about the mortgage and the other bills of the house. I work in fast food, where he works as an engineer. The thing that bothers me is that he doesn't really care if the dog has an appointment tomorrow because we need groceries. Here's how I know this: I have about $126. in my account. The groceries I've made a cart for online are $136. But he wants to only transfer about $30-$50 to help...when my dog's appointment is going to be over $50. And he won't help with that. So that's how I got my answer. If I buy the groceries I won't have the money for the dog, who may need surgery soon. But we need groceries...so once I'm finished with the appointment he will be forced to help with the grocery expense because I know he can afford at least half. Am I wrong for doing this?

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Threepio

Am I wrong for doing this?

I kind of see it this way.....

If the girl had the dog before hooking up with the dude, then the dog comes with the girl as a package deal. The same applies to kids. It is always a package deal or it isn't a deal....

OTOH, Cereal and milk is relatively inexpensive. Perhaps a lesson in reality is due for the dude. (Just tell him that Frosted Mini-Wheats are very high in fiber and you concerned about his regularity and are looking out for his health).

PoisonLace · 41-45, F

@Threepio We actually got the dog while together after one of the cats died prematurely from liver failure. He was against it in the beginning, but warmed up to him later. He's my dog, and even though he didn't come with me, there's still a responsibility that my boyfriend knows I have to keep up with. And I get what you're saying about a package deal, but it should matter to him if it's important to me. If someone doesn't care how their significant other feels about something, like a life, then they shouldn't be with them. I don't care what other people say, animals are like children. You have to do the same stuff for them as you would for a child or they die.

Threepio

@PoisonLace

We actually got the dog while together

That makes it a shared responsibility.