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Sapio · 46-50, M
According to Google...
Marriage comes from Middle English which was first seen in 1250-1300 CE. ... The main goal of marriage, earlier on, was to act as an alliance between families. Throughout history, and even today, families arranged marriages for couples. Most couples didn't marry because they were in love, but for economic liaisons.
Marriage comes from Middle English which was first seen in 1250-1300 CE. ... The main goal of marriage, earlier on, was to act as an alliance between families. Throughout history, and even today, families arranged marriages for couples. Most couples didn't marry because they were in love, but for economic liaisons.
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Sapio · 46-50, M
Lol you're welcome @SW-User 😊
Sapio · 46-50, M
@Madeleine it is not marriage that holds the value of importance. It is the commitment two people make to each and uphold and you do not need to be married to do so.
Tell me if you were dating someone for a year or so and caught them cheating, would you forgive them because you two are not married yet? No, you wouldn't. Why? Because, he didn't honor his commitment to you to be a faithful partner.
The value of a good relationship starts from the day you decide to enter that relationship, not the day you walk down the aisle.
Tell me if you were dating someone for a year or so and caught them cheating, would you forgive them because you two are not married yet? No, you wouldn't. Why? Because, he didn't honor his commitment to you to be a faithful partner.
The value of a good relationship starts from the day you decide to enter that relationship, not the day you walk down the aisle.
trackman11 · 61-69, M
Obviously you will get very different opinions on the value of marriage. Although I am happily married for many years and don’t feel “outdated”, I do respect other views and life experiences.
I do think we should all agree that a commitment to each other is necessary for a “great” relationship. 🙂
I do think we should all agree that a commitment to each other is necessary for a “great” relationship. 🙂
Reflection2 · 41-45, M
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PhilDeep · 51-55, M
Are you asking if I think I need to marry her if I were already in a great relationship, or if I think only marriage provides the opportunity for a great relationship? (Edited for grammar.)
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Johnblackthorn · 56-60, M
No, unless you might need the legal protection.
We only married to give partner rites over my land in the event of my death, but since then I've decided not to die.
We only married to give partner rites over my land in the event of my death, but since then I've decided not to die.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@Johnblackthorn Marriage gives society structure and stability.
Johnblackthorn · 56-60, M
@Madeleine I like to think that and in reality it probably does, more so than anything else, but it's far from necessary and has a disappointingly high failure rate, but thats down to people and the marriage institution itself.
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
depend on the choices you and your partner make.
But for me... it's not really that important.
But for me... it's not really that important.
Kwek00 · 41-45, M
@Madeleine
Honestly Madeleine, that really depends on how the individuals deal with this situation.
But I do agree with you that mariage, or a society that enforces mariage either by the law or through regious peer pressure, creates order. However, the problem with that idea, is that order also comes with a cost that certain individuals have to pay because society don't let them break up. It also comes with the individual cost of those people that don't believe in mariage or have a high tendency to promiscuity. Hence that societies that have such laws and have peer pressure, also create some serious misserable and depressed individuals that can't deal with.
Since I believe that my opinion on how someone should live shouldn't be dictated (specially in the bed chamber, I'm just not arrogant enough to do so) I rather have individuals figure this out for themselves. I don't think that the state or that peer pressure is helpfull in every case, and I don't want to be the reason of other people hanging themselves up because I was mean to them because I believe they ought to live a certain way.
Honestly Madeleine, that really depends on how the individuals deal with this situation.
But I do agree with you that mariage, or a society that enforces mariage either by the law or through regious peer pressure, creates order. However, the problem with that idea, is that order also comes with a cost that certain individuals have to pay because society don't let them break up. It also comes with the individual cost of those people that don't believe in mariage or have a high tendency to promiscuity. Hence that societies that have such laws and have peer pressure, also create some serious misserable and depressed individuals that can't deal with.
Since I believe that my opinion on how someone should live shouldn't be dictated (specially in the bed chamber, I'm just not arrogant enough to do so) I rather have individuals figure this out for themselves. I don't think that the state or that peer pressure is helpfull in every case, and I don't want to be the reason of other people hanging themselves up because I was mean to them because I believe they ought to live a certain way.
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
No marriage is outdated
Rhodesianman · 56-60, M
@Madeleine No its outdated and would never advise marriage its just a way of lawyers making more money when the marriage breaks up .No Marriage No lawyers.