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I Take Relationships Seriously

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for six months now and yesterday felt like our first real argument. Prior to that we had had little disagreements but yesterday he was upset with me and we went to dinner and I could just tell. But it felt like he was giving me the silent treatment, I ended up snapping at him and telling him I’d rather him just yell at me than give me the silent treatment. He didn’t. We ended up talking about why he was upset and he said he just needed time to process things, that’s why he was quiet. By the end of the night we decided we wanted to find ways to become emotionally closer, and work on things together. He’s worried about co-dependency but I don’t think either of us has ever seen what a truly healthy relationship looks like to be able to model ours after. I’m pleased how it all worked out and a little embarrassed about my reaction to his silence but I’m hoping our future plans will lead us to an even more serious and committed relationship. My last marriage was a hot mess so if I ever do get married again I want this one to be a healthy one.
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lasergraph · 70-79, M
Communication is key. He may have been "processing" or just pissed for the moment and afraid he might say something he couldn't take back. That is a point to remember. Words said in haste can't really be taken back, you can apologize and say you didn't mean them but they are already out there and they will forever be in memory. I think you seem to be handling things well.
RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F
@lasergraph thanks. Yeah once he explained he was upset and just trying to process things it made more sense. Communication is key. That’s true you can’t take back things and I’m thankful he didn’t say anything mean or yell like my ex husband used to.
mrbuddhawannabe · 56-60, M
@RedHotCrazyPerson A great communication process is Marshall Rosenberg's Non-Violent Communication. It's a simple formula.
RedHotCrazyPerson · 31-35, F
@mrbuddhawannabe hmm is that in a book or article or where do you find it?