I Have Anxiety

My sister in law isn't talking to me. My brain is running over every single scenario and meeting we've ever had and saying I've been rude and awful and that's the reason why. I haven't, I don't think, but I can't stop the thoughts.

She's moody and not a great person and can take offence over nothing (and we live literally on different sides of the world) but it's making me feel sick thinking what I could have done that I'm not aware of.

My husband thinks it might be because I've "taken him away from them" and she doesn't like it that he has a life of his own. I mean, she was on her phone for our whole wedding ceremony and left early and made an excuse every time we were going to meet up. She's just not a great person, but she's skinny and "successful" and has a high opinion of herself and I'm just this big pile of s***, so I suffer 😥

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CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

That sucks, I'm sorry to hear that it's causing you such anxiety. Family is the worst, then suddenly you gain a whole new one with added insecurities and unfathomable behaviours. I hope you get to the bottom of what's going on.

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CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Starsandfire so a narcissist wants to be adored by as many people as possible. That's the main quest.

The best way of achieving that short term is by lying, cheating, manipulating, to con people into loving you because they think you're someone you're not.

The best way of achieving that [b]long term[/b] is to just be a good person. Study what good people do and copy them, even if it goes against all your instincts. You have to keep watch on yourself though, otherwise you fall into traps that you set for yourself.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@CheshireCatalyst interesting! I am for sure, definitely not one 😂

CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M

@Starsandfire but at least now you can keep an eye out for it in your sister in law! 😋

bijouxbroussard · F

Your husband may be right, and if her problem is just that he has a life and family with you now, that’s on her. Not much you can do, or should be expected to do.

Starsandfire · 31-35, F

@bijouxbroussard I guess. It's just she's my daughter's aunt and I really try not to fall out with anyone for my family's sake. When her and my husband's sister fell out everyone just stopped talking to each other. I worry that my husband won't have his brother anymore if I try and do anything but appease her. 😥 It's a tricky one for sure.

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