I Am Not Romantic

@Somewhereovertherainbow It's OK with me if others are enjoying it, I think that's wonderful and I am sad I've never been there myself, but I admit I like to see it between two people who've known each other for more than a couple of chats online or over the phone.

@greenmountaingal oh if it's only a couple of chats then I agree with you... it takes time to develope into true love...

@greenmountaingal 💐 You are welcome.

@CharlieZ Nowhere in my post did I blame my many disappointments in love on anyone. I take full responsibility for the many times I have been a fool. Maybe that's why I find superficial immature romantic rants annoying.

@greenmountaingal Never said you did.
After all, each one bleeds (and rant) from his own bleeds.

But, only as a personal stand for, I reserve the quality of frivolous and inmature for the rants that theorize that individuality isolated from love is the hallmark of maturity.
Ok, I also leave part of the adjective for ideas like: "heal and put in the past", "you can only control yourself", all the "self whatever" collection, and for the word "acceptance".
And for the snake oil a la mode therapies.

@cd4259 I agree that love has no age limit. But I think immature teenage sounding rants from people who have never actually met should.

@SW-User I admit I am not really sure. But raving about someone you barely know at all is not it.

@greenmountaingal True. Raving about someone we barely know at all is not love. It is just a fantasy that has no realistic view.

Love needs time. We have to keep our mind awake and aware of someone before we can truly know if that person is love or not. But love is not something that you think is mostly about negativity. Romance and love tend to get along, and there is nothing wrong if people who are not teenagers can be related to it. Love has no rule, people can love the way they want it to be. And love is about connection, not about reason or facts. I love the word soulmate, but I would only consider someone who is truly my soulmate if I get to know that person well. I don't believe in love with social media. I like to found love when I see in person, not see through words.

You say that you have an unusual unhappy life, which makes you view about love that way. People who usually unhappy with life tend to see things negatively; even things that consider as one of the happiest things to life could be seen as negative under their eyes.

The way you see life will affect the way life treat you because life is you. You are the one who observes yourself, and life observes you. So whatever you think, you do; it will imitate you. And it will show the result of what it copies you and imitating you. And you will understand why your life happens that way.

@DarlingSelah I agree. It can be fun if not taken too seriously. (I'm thinking of those people on Dr.Phil who send hundreds of thousands of dollars to people in foreign countries because they're "in love with a wonderful person.")