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I Am Afraid I Will Never Find Someone to Really Love Me

At 20 I Don't Think I Should Even Be Worried About Things Like This... But The Thought Of Possibly Being Alone Forever Scares Me... Im Scared That I Will Find Someone That Really Wants To Be With Me.. But Im Going To Push Them Away Because I Have My Guard Up.. But I Don't Want To Take My Guard Down.. And Get Hurt Again So Im Stuck

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NoPretenses

Fear is something that is built into us for survival. Unfortunately in a world where there aren't too many actual physical threats, we sometimes have the same reaction to imagined threats. What if I get what I want? What if I don't get what I want? What if I fail? What if I succeed. All terrifying. But none of which can not be recovered from.

Worried...Scared...What if...
Live. Breathe. Exist. NOW. Not in the past where hurts have happened. And not in the future where hurts could happen. Just right now.

Try out this. Every time that fear crosses your mind OR some version of it, say to yourself: "I am loving and lovable. I am free to love and be loved. I am safe in God's love." Or if you don't have a belief in God, you could say, "I am safe in love."