I Am Afraid I Will Never Find Someone to Really Love Me

Fear is something that is built into us for survival. Unfortunately in a world where there aren't too many actual physical threats, we sometimes have the same reaction to imagined threats. What if I get what I want? What if I don't get what I want? What if I fail? What if I succeed. All terrifying. But none of which can not be recovered from.

Worried...Scared...What if...
Live. Breathe. Exist. NOW. Not in the past where hurts have happened. And not in the future where hurts could happen. Just right now.

Try out this. Every time that fear crosses your mind OR some version of it, say to yourself: "I am loving and lovable. I am free to love and be loved. I am safe in God's love." Or if you don't have a belief in God, you could say, "I am safe in love."

I say the same thing will kinda. I end up think that I am not worth any girls time because in reality I feel that there is always someone better and more attractive then me. Then again I can be free and do whatever I desire in life like going out to work in different states and enjoy the comfort of other places, but at moments I wish I had someone to enjoy it with instead of being alone. Hope this makes sense because I get stuck as well

I could give you some cliche BS about love, life and finding someone that you really connect with...in truth, it's a lot of hard work on yourself to be able to let go and love someone else and let them love you. You're right, at 20, you shouldn't worry about it, but your problems are just as real as mine or some in their 60's. Work on yourself first, yes I know, the rest will follow.

I have found that true love is not an easy thing to walk into...at least on your part. To earn it, and to find it, you must find the bravery to be ripped open. Yes, you will get hurt. But the minute you hurt, learn to let it go and realize true love will never hurt you. Yes it's disappointing but finding someone who will give you true happiness is a long path. But it won't matter when you find them, because you'll be set for life.

Don't give up ! You don't need to always being on your guard but you don't need also to trust anybody. Enjoy life, have faith in yourself, don't be to closed, you'll see, there's good people and bad one. You just need to recognize them.

You're psyching yourself out. You're afraid of being hurt but it's stopping you from being happy. If you'd like to talk about stuff I'm willing to help you address your thoughts more thoroughly.

Sorry too hear that....my guard is slowly coming down again....I'm happy