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I Wish I Was Enough

I don’t understand why people cheat. And because I don’t understand I automatically think it’s my fault (one of the downsides to mental illness)

It’s frustrating that the only “solution” I’ve been given is to just leave him. If I could, I would. I would like to add that it’s not the sense of I don’t know how to leave, it’s that I have no where to go, basically no money (I’m living off of a student loan), and no family or friends close by. There are very few apartments in the town I live in. Even less that are affordable. And none that are affordable and in a good neighborhood.

Do people cheat because they’re unhappy? Or do they cheat because they don’t really love you? How do you get them to stop?

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mljenkins · 51-55, F

I don't think people cheat because they don't love somebody. Of course every situation is different and people have their reasons. Some people are just going to cheat, that's just what they do. Sometimes the grass just seems greener on the other side then you realize that it was just sex and nothing more was ever there. I don't know if you can ever stop someone from cheating. Just let them know that if they want to be with someone else, leave you the hell alone and quit wasting your time.

Fernie · F

@mljenkins cheaters have NO clue what love is. You don't cheat on people you love. You communicate and address issues in the relationship unless you are a selfish, betraying, weak, coward. You cannot justify cheating

mljenkins · 51-55, F

I don't know that I was trying to justify it, was just trying to look at it from another angle, but hey we are entitled to our opinions

Fernie · F

First..people with mental challenges aren't clones. Not everyone with issues feels the way you do. Women in general think it's their fault when cheated on...society conditions us that way...it has nothing to do with mental illness...it's a societal issue. People who cheat are the ones at fault...10000%. They choose to betray their partner. They are selfish cowards. You can't change that. Find someone you can trust. When we have low self esteem...we tend to pick the wrong people...again and again

gfantasy · 56-60, M

I don't think cheating is caused by the other partner "not being enough"... It's mostly greed, I'd say... No women are alike, and it's impossible to have it "all in one"... Extroverted, introverted, tall, short, blonde, brunette, exotic or girl-next-door... everything is "interesting"... Cheating is perhaps caused by insecurity, trying to have more than one relationship in case the first fails... (which of course backfires and ruins all relationships...) Then there's biology which makes men sort of wired to have multiple partners.... Bottom line, not your fault...

BeefySenpie · M

You can't make them stop, and people cheat because they're greedy usually

ExperienceDLT · M

They cheat because they have no reguard for how it makes you feel they are selfish and only care about themselves not the people they profess to care about

KaiserSolze · 46-50, F

Accident, pathological or real love. That's why.

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