I Think Failed Relationships Change People

I've been single a long time and I've learned a lot about myself during this time. I have also learned a lot from this young man that I've very much developed feelings for in the last three years.
I would like to be in a real relationship with him, but he doesn't have his life together. I am more escaping from the idea of a relationship based on his investments in me.
He claims he loves me and is planning a life with me "only if You"... (only if I, me)... he is not my kind of long term man. I know. Hence why I am sharing.

His words don't mean a thing. His actions are none. Therefore I am not for him. In this case, My love is conditional too. When I find a man to love me unconditionally, the way I seek it, I will change my tune.