I Think Failed Relationships Change People

Don't ever become used to being abused... Never ever!

You did the right thing by getting the heck out of there. Sorry you've been through that.

If you do not lean how to combat and overcome this tendency it will happen again, I suggest you refrain from another relationship until you have done some indepth study into the behavior that allowed this to happen to begin with, and possibly some therapy too. Melody Beattie has a good book on it, titled
Co-Dependant no more.

I think it has a name, codependency!!

First of all, congratulations on getting out of there; that can be very difficult to do. Secondly, please be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to heal. Never allow anyone to make you lose yourself for a relationship. I'm so sorry you were abused..

When you look back you will see the good and blot out the bad. That is your brains way of coping with trauma.
Personally it's what makes a lot of people go back. Don't!
This is not something you should ever endure or tolerate! Ever.
Keep living and moving towards a better future.
One of love and one of hope.
One where you are respected and treated like a human being.

No guy is worth of the abuse. Hang in there and you'll learn to love yourself and be independent.