I Hate Insensitive People

Bad person. Cut them off. Move on.
I started a friendship with a girl at my uni but she was dating this guy. She seemed more interested In dating him so she skipped class a lot.
When he passed away, and she started to get clingy. I felt bad for her at the beginning but then I started to feel used.
I later told her about my father's ill health and age said to me that it wasn't the same type of suffering.
Because he was still alive.
Even though his severe disability meant he was unable to anything for himself including his speech he relied on us. People promised a lot and delivered very little.

I invited her out a few times in the summer because she said she was stuck indoors doing nothing but cry so I thought a couple of hours doing an activity might help.
But she wanted it to be a counselling session, never once asking about my dad or how I was doing. She would get really emotional.

So in the end I decided I had enough I told her she would be better off having counselling as this was not something I could deal with that I felt really used that what could have been a shared experience was actually one sided.

My father has passed away and I haven't really told very many people, some here have been kind to offer condolences and words of comfort, others ignore it.

When you grieve it's very personal and incredibly selfish thing. Not bad or wrong.
Just not always how someone else deals with things. It's also hard for a person who doesn't know or feel for someone they didn't know, and if they never grieved before they will find it weird that you're stuck.

Today is the 26th monthly anniversary that my dad died. Every month on this day I feel like it's that day all over again. Your "friend" has either never lost someone or lost what he feels is much greater than yours. Either way does not diminish your pain.

No one can tell you what to feel you're only human. This person should mind their own business.

That's the true color of a narcissist. They're the first ones to abandon you when you're in trouble. 😑

I had a mate whos gf said something like that to him a month after his dad died. "it's been a month, get over it" You take as long as you need. It's not for anyone else to decide when it's time to stop hurting. My best mate died 20 years ago, i still miss him

Wow! That is just plain rude. I can say insensitive things I won’t lie but that was uncalled for. Cut that person off.

Wow that’s horrible. I’m so sorry

Not all people are that heartless. This person meant something to you, and you are allowed to grieve the loss as you need to. The person who abandoned you while you were grieving clearly wasn’t a friend and didn’t understand what the word means. My sincerest condolences. 🥺