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I Am A Victim Of Emotional Abuse And Verbal Abuse

I am still coming to terms with it but soon I will finally be divorced from my wife. She was a emotionaly abusive alcoholic. Its been 7 months since I kicked her out of the house and its been an emotional roller coaster. No part of me wants her back but still struggling to deal with it all. Have some ups and a lot of downs. Only been in two serious relationships however both were abusive yet this one was by far the worst.

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Peaches · F

Makes us wonder why we are drawn to these kinds of people in the first place?!🤔I had this kind of situation growing up, so that's why I was.🙁Took years to understand that and break the cycle. When I divorced I didn't date for a really long time, I went back to college and learned who I was and what I wanted, not what someone else wanted. ⭐Best of luck to you.

Magariz · 36-40, M

@Peaches Thank you! Been little over a year now and yeah haven't dated at all. Focusing just on me. It is lonely but 100% want to break that cycle. When I date again I dont want any of those damn mind games.

Peaches · F

@Magariz Exactly! 🍀

Justpeaceandlove · 61-69, F

There are a lot of guys who go through abuse but not told.

Magariz · 36-40, M

Thanks! Yeah it does happen to men as well but tends to be kept quiet or we suck it up because its the "manly" thing to do. Something I did for a while. :(

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Magariz · 36-40, M

Emotions is something I have always struggled with. Growing up being sensitive and emotional was a weakness. I tend to just shut down. Working on that though.

FireAndWater · 31-35, F

@Magariz Again, yes the main thing is to recognise and act on it. Its ok to be sensitive and emotional just don't let it eat you up :)

Magariz · 36-40, M

Work in progress. I tend to keep everything in, even when the walls are on fire and collapsing. My biggest flaw.

rottenrobi · 56-60, F

Having just gotten out of same madness in reverse, I understand completely. It just takes time to sort it all out, is what I'm told. Glad you're free.

FireAndWater · 31-35, F

Its a good thing you recognised the abuse but also sad to hear you went through this, all the best :)

Magariz · 36-40, M

@FireAndWater Thank you very much! I am moving on well. Slowly but steadily.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

how long married?

Magariz · 36-40, M

@NiftyWhite 4 years

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

oh dear. im sorry to hear that. i just got married so i hate stories like that

Magariz · 36-40, M

@NiftyWhite its ok. Come to terms wkth it. Next month is 1yr of being free.

Chickie · F

Congrats on your divorce. It's good that you got out of that relationship.

Magariz · 36-40, M

@Chickie Thanks!

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