I Am Feeling Hopeless
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I Am Feeling Hopeless

I just wish that I have someone to be with me when I cry. A lot of times, I feel so alone. 😞 It has been a month since my mom died. The painful thing is when I feel hopeless that my husband will eventually understand what I am going through. 😢
tryingtobeOK
36-40, F
19 replies 44 views Mar 7, 2020
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trackman11 · 61-69, M
I’m sorry about your mom. It’s possible that your husband simply doesn’t know how to help and feels helpless. If he is a “fixer”, empathy is hard and being helpless may feel like failure. My guess is he cares more than you realize but won’t express that the way you wish he would.
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tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
@trackman11 It could be that. A lot of times, he wont understand my silence at all. Instead, he will pick a fight. It hurts a million times. Most of the time, I just cry myself to sleep. It’s the thing that I can do.
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trackman11 · 61-69, M
@tryingtobeOK I don’t know him or you but it’s possible he is hurting just as much, but neither of you understand each other enough to empathize. You have lost your mom, which is incredibly hard. He may feel like he is losing you. I hope you find a way to give him grace and reach out, not because he is right, but because he was worth getting married to. 🙂
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
I would tell your husband what you are going through and ask him to pay more attention to your emotions and help you with your grief.
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PhoenixPhail · M
@Livingwell He might understand it conceptually, but if he's not there emotionally, he won't get it.
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tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
He has been emotionally absent.@PhoenixPhail
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
@tryingtobeOK He needs to step up. This is a defining moment in your relationship and he needs to understand it.
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PhoenixPhail · M
I wish he were emotionally available to you.
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DayDreaming2 · F
I’m so sorry for your loss. 🤗
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PhoenixPhail · M
Of all the people to understand, I would think your husband would the most understanding of anyone. I'm sorry if he's not. And I'm sorry you're alone with this. Do you have a good girlfriend you can share your feeling with, someone who can hold you? 🤗❤
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BobbieT · M
It’s hard when a love one passes on . My parents died years ago & not a day goes by that I don’t thing of them. You cry because you love your mom. That’s okay.Sorry for your loss. 🌹
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tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
@BobbieT Thank you, I just miss talking to my mom. I will be ok in time.
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Teachocolate · 51-55, F
I am so sorry for your loss.My mom left me a few years ago but I had a few dreams seeing and hugging her.I miss her too.
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tryingtobeOK · 36-40, F
@Teachocolate I have been having dreams about that too, recently. That I am hugging her.
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Teachocolate · 51-55, F
@tryingtobeOK I hope you will find peace one day.🌹
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Livingwell · 61-69, M
I hope he does understand and give you your needed support.
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Jeffrey53 · 51-55, M
I’m sorry for your lost
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4meAndyou · F
💛🤗
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BigGuy2 · 26-30, M
Seek help some other way, if you don’t you may buckle under the pressure ... any time you want to talk, leave a message
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