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I Have Never Been Married

I have had my fair share of odd looks over the years due to my admitting in conversation that I'm not only single, but that I have never married. What a pity it seems to be such a stigma to some people. I have had relationships over the years, none of which progressed any further. Perhaps the chemistry wasn't as strong as we had first thought, perhaps we weren't the soulmates we believed us to be. Life doesn't always turn out the way we would like it to but we learn to roll with it. I don't rule out marriage even now, but I won't let myself lose sleep over wondering if I will ever find a partner. Things can go either way and you know what? I'm okay with that.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
People are never satisfied. If you don't have kids at all, they're going to call you selfish, if you do have kids in your 40s, you're selfish again, while if you do at 18 you're an irresponsible slut. If you get married at 19 it's too early, if you get at 50 too late and if never, you're a sad lady with only cats for company.
So whatever, just because there are some social "standards" no one should think that their life is not as it should be, that they need to change.
I'm 18 and never had a boyfriend and whenever it happens to say that, I get weird looks lol as if I don't have my whole life ahead of me...
I've come to realize that if you have health and happiness, nothing else matters.
Fernie · F
@HannibalAteMeOut Exactly! Masses are asses
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@Fernie if that was a reference to L7 I just got excited! 😆
AverageJane · 56-60, F
@HannibalAteMeOut Agreed! 😎
My younger sister is just like you, Jane.... I adore your guts and confidence. 🤗
AverageJane · 56-60, F
@Vivaci Thank you.
sunrisehawk · 61-69, M
Curiosity is so strong in human beings. Often instead of finding out the truth, they just make up a good story (at least in their minds) to settle their minds.

There should be no stigma for a person who isn't average (by societies standards). Congratulations on being comfortable in your own skin. Best wishes.
plumbcurious · 36-40, M
Marriage is not a Hollywood movie and I think people need to realize that on a very small few can have a successful monogamy marriage. I think a lot more people are realizing there animal instant and molding marriage into there own definition
gmatthewb · 51-55, M
Nothing wrong with never getting married. I wish I never got married the first time. Good for you for not giving in to the pressures of society.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
Nothing wrong with that. It's better to be on one's own than to be trapped in a undesirable relationship.
melbeacher · 61-69, M
You are probably happier than most married folks !!
ProfRS · 61-69, M
Hello, I am in similar situation. I have been super blessed with great friends, and wonderful rewarding career. I will be honest, if that is a picture of you, you are very attractive, way above 'average'. I am Paul. How are you? Oh, happy Wednesday.
Fernie · F
I'm ok with it too. I chose to not ever marry. Had a few decent relationships but marriage didn't ever feel right. I could not care less how others see it...I think many of them are envious of our freedom actually
Vanvadar · 56-60, M
I can definitely understand and relate to what you're talking about.
I've never been married and I'm also single and I've had relationships that never went any farther either.
Message me if you'd like to chat
Hanging2 · 51-55, M
Sometimes timing is not right.
Sometimes you make bad choices.
It goes with life and not one size fits all.
Thank you for sharing this and I wish you all the best of luck whatever road you take.
AverageJane · 56-60, F
@Hanging2 Thank you.
sciguy18 · M
I hear you. At my age, people assume I must have been married at least twice.

When I tell them I've never been married, it's often met with "Oh".
Raffie · 61-69, F
Marriage can be very confining and controlling. I loved being single, and yes, I was married...for the wrong reasons. Enjoy your freedom and live each moment.
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Joker · 36-40, M
That's a good attitude to have, at least your not endlessly seeking for Mr. right.
SW-User
chemistry is only one thing.. To love and to be loved with out any condition.
Sarabee · 41-45
Do u ever wish that yu had children
AverageJane · 56-60, F
@Sarabee oh yes.
Sarabee · 41-45
@AverageJane do yu want mine😆
AverageJane · 56-60, F
@Sarabee No thanks. Hehe.. 😁
sighmeupforthat · 46-50, M
doesn't understand? must be a regional misinterpretation.
Bluesky53 · 61-69, M
my wife and married at later age,10 years,we we're mid 40's, then,
Goralski · 56-60, M
Me too in an outcast 😭
i have been married once and never again i want a relationship and every thing with it but nothing else

 
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