Please Tell Me I'm Not Alone In This?

Do any of you have a partner who just doesn't [i]think[/i] before he/she acts or gets themselves into a situation???

I swear I love my fiance but today he is just pushing ALL of my buttons. He asked me to post his PS4 on a local sales site for sale. So I did.

Then when someone showed interest, she asked to see pics of it. So I went to take a pic of it but it's like under my fiance's desk, in an out of the way dark place that I can't get a good photo in. So I asked if he would please take it out and let me take pics. He said "Oh I have to clear our data from it, disconnect it, and clean it first."

So I'm like..."ok can you do that then? This girl is waiting for a photo." And he got mad and stormed off. So I had to tell the girl that I would take a pic when I could and send it to her later.

How fucking embarrassing. Makes me look like I don't have my shit together and that pisses me off. He should have had all that crap done BEFORE he even asked me to post it for sale!! That's like putting a 'FOR SALE' sign on a car then when someone comes to buy it you tell them you can't because you're still driving it. 🤬

Please tell me some of you deal with this type of shit too?? 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Budwick · 70-79, M

The way to deal with that behavior is to hand him his walking papers.
OK, maybe just a time out.
This is a yellow flag
You took the opportunity to live with the guy before marriage presumably at least in part to see how things work out. This, is part of how things work out.

I would not assume that he will change for some reason.
I would not assume that you can learn to live with his lame behavior.

Shape up, or ship out! IMO

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Budwick I already told him that if he doesn't agree to couples counseling before marriage to address all these issues, I'll break the engagement. He agreed to go. We just can't afford it right now.

Budwick · 70-79, M

@DearAmbellina2113 Good for you!
Has he expressed any interest in why you think you guys need counseling?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@Budwick no. He pretty much just blindly agrees because I guess he's afraid of me leaving. It's a complicated situation with him and I try to be understanding because his life has not been great or easy and he has shitty parents.

But I'm admittedly reaching the end of my patience with everything. Maybe it's just today, Idk. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Budwick · 70-79, M

@DearAmbellina2113 Ambelina - I know you don't know me from Adam, but I've seen this play out a number of times. Be careful. Consider individual counseling - there's all kinds of flags on the field and I'm not even a counselor!
Don't confuse patience with enabling!
I promise - I'll shut up from here - just be careful.