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I Lost My Father

It's been a little over a week and I'm not sure how to process it. He was happy and healthy one day and the next day he was gone. I still don't know how to process is. Thank you for being an amazing friend and teaching me what I needed to learn.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

My sympathies. That's a big loss. My dad died after 14 grueling weeks of hospitalization and it was still a shock.

Davin · 36-40, M

@Mamapolo2016 I would have taken him being hospitalized first, rather than getting that phone call in the middle of a nap, from my sister in law of all people.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Davin I understand - but watching them suffer isn't easy either.

Davin · 36-40, M

@Mamapolo2016 True. I'm still not sure the best route for my mom right now she's not in her best spot. Some days she's beside herself, and I'm worried she might want to "end it" as she threated to do after my sister.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Davin As much as you can, grieve with her. Talk about him with her when she wants to. It's hard to do that for very long without sharing a laugh over funny times. Start easing her out of the house - lunch, shopping, a movie or play. Help her realize she's still got some living to do.

Davin · 36-40, M

@Mamapolo2016 I don't think she'd travel an hour to town for a movie or lunch. I've been spending as much time around her as she allows me to.

Mamapolo2016 · F

@Davin Then need her. You're thinking about buying a chair or a new suit and you need her advice. Would she please come to town and give you the help you so desperately need? She could come Friday night and go back Saturday or Sunday.

Davin · 36-40, M

@Mamapolo2016 I know, I'm actually going to get ideas from my
Tante Gertrud, who knows my mom better than I do, since I can't leave my wife home alone for long, as she needs help getting around and I have to keep a diligent eye on mom, (with the help of my brother and sister in law)