I Am The Other Woman

EP refugee here...I have been the OW for about 4 years now. He was my OM at first and I got divorced a couple years ago. Never been more in love than with my MM. He is my fantasy come true. W has been suspicious from the get go and has confronted me multiple times. Nothing gets in the way. He is loyal and determined and in love. There are many ups and downs. I have tried to end it over and over and have been unable to walk away from him.

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SoFine · 46-50, F

1. You wrote - He is loyal and determined and in love. Yes, this is true, for him to him. The person he is loyal to - is him and only to him ....
2. He complains to you, you listen, yet he is still in the marriage. If it was so bad as it is, he would go.....but he stays, again for him, not her or you....
3. He is self boasting as to how all these people depend on him. He set it up that way, that is as how he lives, they depend on me, so he can feel good about him-self and is a victim of his own making.
4. If it was not you as the OW, he would have found some other sucker to suck in. He looks for needy people, to need him..
In summary: Like attract like, so that your view of life and marriage, will stay your view. No growth as a human to step outside your comfort zone, be honest, be accountable with integrity.

Stalked9 · 51-55, F

Wow- you sure have all of the answers about the relationship I have been living in for years. So enlightened you are. For someone who doesn't know me, him or any of the players...The man has been married for almost 26 years. He doesn't want to abandon the people he loves and cares about. He does NOT complain to me. Not sure where you got that. He never touched another women outside of his marriage for over 20 years. He didn't seek out an affair. We met and we fell in love. Shit happens, stop being so judgmental when you really don't know shit, okay?

SoFine · 46-50, F

@Stalked9: You said SHIT happens, no people act stupid, they get them-selves in a mess, then look at ways to get out, or stay and include a week minded person to stay stuck in their own shit.

Solostance

@Stalked9: abandon people he loves and cares about????? Girl are you stuck on stupid? How can a man live and care for people he's hurting? How can you say shit happens? Let shit happen. He's afraid of letting go because he knows he would be financially ruined if they divorced. Stop eating up his lies as truths.